Lessons in Navigating Bisexual Lives
Lessons in Navigating Bisexual Lives Relationships can be difficult enough to navigate even when they're relatively simple to decipher. Last night I was watching an Italian film called "Le Fate Ignoranti," (pictured) which translates to mean "Ignorant Fairies" for those who are curious, and that's probably why they retitled the film as "His Secret Life" for American audiences. Anyway, this woman loses her husband in a tragic accident and in her grief discovers that her husband had a secret male lover for the past seven years. Object Lesson 1: Avoid those pesky navigational complexities by using the ancient tool known locally as dishonesty. For the record, the wife and the lover wind up becoming friends.This weekend, while hooping with friends in Berkeley, I met a woman whose been married to her husband for twenty years, who later on confessed that she's currently involved in a quad. Asking her about it and the dynamics of her chosen love life she explaind that no one had ever planned it that way, that a third arrived in their lives, and then a fourth. Object Lesson 2: Approach everything openly and honestly with your chosen partner(s). Her advice for me was relatively common sense, although tidbits that can so easily go ignored, tips like "communication is essential," "i have to actively work on being present for it all on a daily basis," and "ultimately relationships are never really ours to begin with, are they?"�[Date: 19-Jul-05 ]
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